I taught emotional intelligence for over 20 years. I research emotional resilience in families. I know what I need to do, to respond wisely and effectively. Yet there are still plenty of mornings when I wake up meaning to be patient, and by lunchtime I've snapped at my kids, made regrettable comments at work, slammed a door and cried in the bathroom.

Have you had a day where you felt like you couldn't get anything right as a parent? You forgot their lunchbox/inside shoes, you lost my cool, they are melting down, and the family behind you in the checkout line looks happy, harmonious and so tidy. And they are giving you looks that make you feel like a terrible parent with terrible kids. I have, and sometimes I feel like the worst mom ever. Awash with embarrassment, shame and guilt.

Expectations are so high on parents today. I speak to shame and guilt in parenthood, and how building resilience to shame can help us find more connection and ease as parents. On the Where You Are podcast series.

I recently went to an event where adults listen to teenagers answer questions about their lives.